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When Love Hurts

What is it about some people that draw others to them? I used to think I wore a sign visible only to poor someone. It read something like “Here I am, if you are needy and cannot participate in a healthy relationship, your problems are over. I will take care of you.” I was a repeat “offender”, invariably taking care of someone who it seemed was a victim of his self, and in turn misused my children and me. After years of being unsuccessful at having a healthy honour relationship, I now watch as my children (now grown) participate in the same negative behavior, and the pain goes on. If I hear one more time “but I love him”, I think I will scream. Love does not heal all, when one does not want to be cure sufficiency to take the substantial steps to end the attack, we cannot heal them.

Love hurts
It hurts when we love somebody who is negative and makes poor choices, which places themselves and everyone close to them in danger
It hurts when you are betrayed. When you feel you really know someone and they behave in a way that is entirely self-interested and uncaring.
When you see someone on a descending spiral and they either won’t or don’t seem to know how to put on the brakes

It doesn’t thing if that person is your spouse, child, parent, sibling, friend, or lover. You care and it is painful.